I live in MD so Crabby it is!

This is my venting window and my now unofficial way of journaling, so please bare with me as I turn myself in to an annoying crabby woman...just for today...indulge me.

This weekend started so pleasant, Friday the Sis and her hubs where off from work so we decided to take a mini road trip to go shopping (an hour and a half away) with the parents. We loved it, my little guy did so well, and even though I missed my big guy and the Hubs-he was working- we had tons of fun and I found some good deals.

We are being hit with Hurricane Irene so we had plan to stay home. I was a little annoyed that I've already gone shopping, and even though the hubs knows my cholesterol is high, he purchased even more junk (how much you ask? we have 1 cake, 1 box of donuts, 2 bags of chips, 1 bag of doritos, 1 box of cookies, 2 tubs of ice cream, 2 jumbo size cookies and cream bars, and one dark milkyway) so maybe that started to get me annoyed.

It has been really stressful with my parents here, I don't mind them is just that my house looks like a mess, there is an air mattress permanently on our living room now for the big kid since my parents are in his room, there is tons more for me to do, appointments to go, cleaning, cooking, even more laundry, tolerating my Mom-ster constant humming, the yelling to my dad 'cause he can't hear, he looses things, she gets frazzle, the fact that he has packed his bags 3 times and asks to leave...*sigh*

I told the hubs last week that we needed to talk, that I needed more help around the house, he said we would talk about it when he returned and we never did. Now, don't get me wrong, he is a good guy, lay back,I know he loves me etc, etc, but I know that with his increasing weight the laziness is in a new high level- there is no other explanation. I know I'm at home all the time and I don't mind doing the chores but for Pete's sake why can he help out a bit?

If I don't tell him to bathe, change or feed the little guy he just doesn't even acknowledge it. Is like he knows it has to be done but he just assume I will do it. For the first time in ages I've been so tired I'm actually sleeping at night, a good change but seriously I need help. I can clear the kitchen only for him to put dirty dishes in the sink, not even bothering to just put him in the DW. Leaves clothes around, doesn't help pick up the kids messes and when he does it looks half assed. I know sitting in from of the computer or watching the game is so much more fun but tonight I just had enough.

I cooked and after dinner I asked him to bathe the little guy (mind you is already 9:00pm-you would think he knows this NEEDS to be done) and then I notice the kitchen is still a mess-his one and only chore these days. I ask him if he rather clean the kitchen and he says that he'll do it later...90% of the time he does and then the other 10 he falls asleep and I have to end up cleaning it at midnight.

I waited for half and hour and I just started cleaning it, then he waltzes in and says "I got it" really? I'm almost done and you got it?

I told him I need more help and if I ask him to help out I prefer if he helps then and not and hour later (mind you the baby still not bathed). As always, when I have a complaint he turns into a 13 yr old and wants to walk away and says whatever. I explained to him that he himself asked me to tell him when I need something because he "gets lazy" but when I do he gets mad, walks away and don't speak to me for days...lovely, I know.

I told him this attitude wont do and we will end up divorcing if he doesn't communicate- he said "bring the lawyer". I got so freaking mad I told him to get the F* out. not the best course of action but I was fuming already. I ended up cleaning the kitchen, bathing the baby and he refused to leave the bedroom so I could put the baby to sleep. Usually if he tries to put him to sleep he falls asleep before the kiddo and I ended up...you guessed it...having to do it myself.

Our last fight was also intense because he refused to acknowledge he is not doing anything to loose the weight, I actually had to include his Sister ( we where visiting in NYC) because he lies to everyone saying he is doing good when he is not. He was mad at me before that because he thinks I don't really know what he eats or do, but I do KNOW he has not lost 1 lb. I know he has to make a choice but he wont and his medical condition scares me.

And now the laziness, I know this is part of being married, I know everyone argues, I just feel like a freaking single person doing it all, I feel alone in this journey to get healthier- now how on earth am I ever gonna do it if he keeps getting crap?- I just wish he understand how stressed I am, how much work I do in the house, with the family. I feel that if we where dating he would make an effort but now he takes me and what I do for granted.

Does every woman at home feels this way? what can I do better? how can I get thru him?

I hope tomorrow will be better, since I have even more family coming for lunch. I know (hope) by Monday we will be ok, he will apologize, I will tell him I'm sorry too, and all will be well. I hope so...but for now I'm venting, I'm crabby and I wish I was a drinker because I feel like I need one.

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The Zoo, earthquake and my Dad

My Dad is also here visiting, and in his normal fashion he is ready to go home. He has never liked being here, he likes being back home, playing Dominos and watching Baseball on his big leather chair. And so yesterday, to do something different I decided we should go have a picnic at the Zoo

and yes, I do own a picnic basket, cause I'm cool like that. You would think the place was empty on a Tuesday but it was so freaking packed, like the last weekend in the summer was happening. No worries, we still had fun and enjoyed walking around.

The kicker came when we where in the reptile area, we see this huge lizard move his head really fast, which was a little odd, and then we felt it. The earthquake got us there. To me it was not a big deal but people around here panicked a lot( I think they said it was 3.8). The downer was that they closed most of the animal viewing areas and eventually evacuated the Zoo, but overall we had a nice day...the traffic coming home, not so much.

My Little guy served as tour guide, and boy did he enjoyed the cooling mist

This was one of the little guy's favorite animals "Tiger, tiger, roar, roar- thanks Kai-lan"

My poor Dad it's having a hard time here, half the time he doesn't realize where he is, he forgets to shower so we have to remind him. After being a week here he said he finally realized he was at my house and "oh, no wonder your Mom felt so comfortable". If I go out he greets me like he just so me for the first time in ages. But overall we have to be thankful that physically he is still very healthy, he still remember my boys, specially the oldest.

Is just something we have to deal every day and is hard because my Mom has no patience. But she is learning...SLOWLY.

In good Fashion, my Mom and I are going shopping today. I need to get a dress for a wedding- OH and I got my new glasses...pictures soon.

Whats new with you?

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Yay for Friend Makin' Mondays

I have to go run some errands but I cannot miss another fabulous:

If you’ve taken part in FMM then you know the rules. If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section here at: www.alltheweigh.com so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to post your own FMM post and comment on a couple of other posts. Now it’s time for this week’s topic!

FMM: The Last Thing

1) What is the title of the last book you read? I am currently re-reading “Queen of the Dammed" so I can refresh my memory on the story line (This is part of the Vampire series that followed "Interview with a Vampire"

2) What is the last movie you saw in a theater? I saw twice Harry Potter :) there are a few movies I do want to go see though

3) Briefly describe the last person you saw today. my family, including kiddos and parents>>>>update to include the Pharmacist :)

4) Which store did you most recently shop in? SHOE SHOPPING @ Famous Footwear with the Mom-ster and Sis, but I didn't get anything. Saturday I did get some stuff from Old Navy & Target. (never mind by the time the pic uploaded Mom-ster and I went shoes shopping again, I GOT NEW HEELS!

5) Who’s the last person you spoke to over the phone? Just hanged up with the younger Sis :)

6) Where’s the last place you vacationed? well, not counting our little trips to NYC to see Family, we vacationed in the Caribbean: Dominican Republic :)

See our place? The one with the white wall over the rocks

7) When was the last time you kissed someone of the opposite sex? This Morning...saying buy to the Hubs.

8)What’s the last thing that made you laugh? My oldest changing the diaper on my youngest yesterday and screaming because he got poo on his belly button.

9) What’s the latest app that you downloaded on your phone? hahaha, I don't have a cell phone, weird, I know...but so freeing.

10) What’s the last kind thing you did for someone? besides making breakfast for the family, I helped someone at a Governmental Office get in the correct line.

Now it’s your turn to answer this week’s questions! I always enjoy reading these from other bloggers so I hope you join.

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Yay weekend

Dad , me and the little guy, last year.

Uff, am I the only one exhausted?

I told my Mom I've work harder being at home than any where else I worked for pay before in my life. The thing is when she asked me if I rather be working I honestly smile and said no, I much rather be home.

Yes, I don't get to dress up in the morning or put full on make up, there are no lunch meetings, Christmas Bonuses, people to talk to, feeling "important" because you knew things, knew your job well, people rely on you and all that, but when I see my little guy drop grapes on the floor and he looks up at me and says "I'm sourry mummy" and know he means it , it melts my heart.

I've been able to teach him to count, to name animals, to find the moon at night, to find his nose, eyes, ears, to sing, to share. He has probably taught me even more in this past year (almost a year, can you believe it?) he laughs out loud for the silliest things, loves his brother to no end. Gives me his drooled cover cookies and tells me he loves me. No money can compare to that. Its silly and over stated that I have to implied I love my kids, but I do.

Even spending time with the Mom-ster and my Dad has been so nice, the little guy is already use to them being home, he jumps in bed with them and cuddles, I watch baseball games with my Dad, I'm actually setting the table each day to eat as a family as opposed to sitting in front of the TV. Ahhhhhhhhh it feels nice.

I finished the majority of my test, which let me tell you, the blood work hurt afterwards so much more than the Mammogram (have you had one? go get one!). And now I'm doing a heck of a lot of other appointments for my mom-ster...(oh and getting new glasses for me).

Next week there will be some shopping, that should be interesting. (by the way Urban Decay is having a huge sale -even loose pigments for $1!) Yeah, I got me some :)

This week was over whelming with appointments and at times I wanted to scream on how messy the house was: my parents are a little messy in their old age, my oldest decided to put an air mattress in the living room so he and the little guy could lay down...and then I say to myself:

WHO CARES!?

We are all together, this is the stuff my kids are going to remember, the fun they had, the stuff we did. And like I read some where: my kids are only going to have one childhood, make it a good one.

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New Stuff!

Short post to let you know my goodies came in!!!!

First my Birchbox box with:

Befine Exfoliating Cleanser
Befine Night Cream
kate spade new york Twirl - 3.4 fl oz (I may have to buy the big size of this one, is delicious)
blinc Mascara (aparently fantastic, made in Japan)
LIFTLAB Lift & Fix™ High Potency Solution
Twistband Hair Ties

Then my Zoya polishes (from L to R) Cynthia, Jem, Angelina and Envy.

I also got this baggie of goods from the Hubs cousin who works there...I already love their fluid sunscreen.

They are all sample size but I love how many goodies she got me :) including a pore refining mask, night treatments, clay mask...

Yay for samples, goodies, and new nail polishes.

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The Witch with a B

I already knew this week was going to be hectic, after all my parents are here, I have tons of medical test to do {nothing major}, the little guy has appointments, then my mother, then the bank. Thankfully we had an awesome weekend in NYC again - but remind me to never again travel on Saturday, I like my Friday nights.

above Bubba enjoying the drizzle in the park, below is what seems to be a replica of the Haunted Mansion...

Is actually the Van Cortlandt House {is inside the park}

The Baby Shower was not what I expected since people where late, tables where late, decor was not what I had in mind, but we all had a great time with family and that is more important.

My Parents flight got super dupper delayed so we stayed an extra night in NYC.

Now to the tittle of this post: now my parents came to see my Brother {who's ill} but also for some legal issues (because it involves the government I cannot say exactly what it is). It was confirmed that parasite that is my older Sister was the one who actually cause this trouble for my parents. My poor Mom-ster starred crying right there in the office, shaking her head, saying she could not believe she was so mean. I, on the other hand, stated hyperventilating and ready to punch the living crap out of her.

Is a good thing the chicken shit that she is she moved 6 hours away (my family has no contact with her after she moved at the beginning of this month, the rumor is that she is on vacation in Asia- if there is fairness in the world I hope she gets thrown in jail while she is there) Seeing my mother so distress just made me furious, is something to have some friendly diatribe with her all the time and other to jeopardize my parents livelihood just to be a despicable human been. If she was still in NJ I would be driving there to kick her ass and show her some respect. (YES I believe this case calls for violence) and I hope never to see here because I don't know what I would do to her.

Thankfully I was able to resolve the major issue with my Parents, I will keep doing the best I can for them. Now I'm off for a walk with my Dad (who didn't know he was in my house and almost had a panic attack because he didn't know where he was...but he remembers my son ).

Days like today remind me is so nice to have good family around, and then they are the assholes you wish you where never related to.

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Stepping on Dinosaurs

Today I feel like if I have Mumps...my throat hurts and it feels really swollen, like I have a lump in it...lovely. But I still did my Leslie Samson Cardio burning exercise! I don't feel so hot right now, so I'm not really caring that I keep stepping on Dinosaurs- cause they multiply here- nor that the big lego blocks are the worst thing to give to your kids when their Mom has OCD...but he loves it so all over they stay.

Bad timing to get sick, my schedule is crazy for the next 6 weeks but we are going to NYC this weekend. My lovely Sister in law, is due in September so we are having a small baby shower at the park. Should be lovely but not fancy, she is after all one of the simplest woman I've ever met in my life. She doesn't care for fashion, or makeup, or bags or heels. It's the strangest thing, but she is seriously a great SIL and a great friend.

Then I'll be at the Airport on Sunday picking up the Mom-ster and my Daddy-o, I can't wait to see them {yes, you read correct, and I'm not even being sarcastic}, should be fun to have an excuse to go out more, visit Georgetown cupcakes {which I will only have 1/2 of one} and shopping, apparently the Mom-ster comes with a plan of attacking all the store...my poor, poor Dad :)

On to some other stuff...I'm trying my hardest the work the coupon thing, sometimes I dont get it, some days I score. I actually signed up thru FB and got 2 coupons of $2.99 for Herbal Essences and Aussie and this is what I got:

I pay $0.40 total because the gal at WM combined the 2 coupons, score! I haven't use HE in ages but is free so I will give it a go (this one is for Long hair) and the Aussie I heard great things about it, even though I don't need that much conditioner but it smells SOOOOOOO good I had to get it.

And here is the stuff I got in the mail this week:

First I won this cereal package from the lovely Molly of Stilettos & Diapers, which includes this little contraption in which you can carry a bowl, a container for the milk and even the spoon!

This has been perfect for a snack for the little guy, and I got to try the Cinnamon burst which I LOVED.

I also order these trousers Jeans from QVC, they where on sale, and 3 payments...yeah, that works for me. They are still on sale but I actually got them for a few dollars less last week. I'll post a pic of me wearing them this weekend.

Oh, and next week I should have my Birchbox box and new nail polishes from Zoya (don't worry, got them on sale buy one get two, which is the only way I purchase them. If you are interested in their deals make sure to open a free account with them, they will send you an email when the next promo becomes available. Here are the colors I choose:

Zoya Jem (Jem, the music’s contagious, Outrageous! Jem is my name, no one else is the same, Jem is my name, JEM!- totally 80's kid)

Zoya Envy

Zoya Cynthia

and finally Zoya Angelina, and yes I was going for a dark period on nail polishes :)

I hope you guys are being healthy, staying beautiful and specially, sane!

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***pics of nails are totally NOT mine, I saved them from Google images when I was deciding on the colors and now have no clue where they are from***